I’ll Quit Writing About Adultery When It Quits Happening

I asked this question on my blog :

If your spouse committed adultery, do you think you would stay or leave? Why?

I had dozens of comments to the question. Some people said they wouldn’t stay. Others said they weren’t sure. Most of the commenters said they would stay and fight for their marriage. That was a bit surprising to me considering the world we live in today.

It was also very promising.

Promising because I think some people are truly starting to trust in the promises of God that say He works all things for the good of those who love Him and have been called according to His purpose. I see people actually taking God at His Word that He is bigger than any incident, occurrence, or activity in their lives.

And I get all of the responses to the question I asked: The resounding yes, the absolute no and the I just don’t know replies. I really do. When my world came crashing in on me in February of 2002, I didn’t know what to do. The self-preserving part of me wanted to hit the road and never look back. Yet, the part of me that loved Jesus, loved God’s Word and pledged to yield my life to Him wanted to stay and see if He could indeed resuscitate and reawaken my very dead marriage. Because of the desire for the yes and theno, I landed with an I just don’t know for a short period of time.

But then God intervened. He began to heal our very disfigured hearts. And now nearly a decade later, we are walking in a place of health and healing in our marriage.

And He wants to heal you, too.

Let’s be real, though. We think we know what we’d do in a certain situation. We think we would act in a certain way or say a certain thing. But the reality is we have no idea until we are placed, or thrown into an unwanted circumstance. My challenge to you today is to not think about the what ifs because they will steal your today from you. Instead, walk with God each day allowing Him to guide you onto each and every path.

I talk about adultery and betrayal in marriage regularly. That’s because what my husband and I walked through and survived was awful. Just awful. And I would really like to help equip you so that you won’t have to walk through it in your own marriage.

It’s my way of helping you and also redeeming my suffering. Because what in the world did I go through immense pain for if I don’t try to help others?