Looking For Love After Divorce? Why Kate Walsh Is Still Hoping?

Finding Love After Divorce: Will Kate Succeed?

Kate Walsh is the star of the hit TV show, Private Practice. But that’s not enough to make Kate Walsh feel complete. Kate is still hoping and looking for love after divorce.

After Divorce: Feels Like A Loser In The Love Department

While being interviewed by More Magazine Walsh, 43 admitted she thought she would be settled down and have children by now. She also said she definitely wanted to be a parent and felt like a loser for not having kids. “However, she said I definitely don’t think “I want to do it on my own.”

Getting Married Too Quickly, The Worst Thing Ever

The actress was married to film executive Alex Young and calls her divorce after just over a year of marriage “the worst thing ever.” She also said she’s learned her lesson about taking things slow in her dating life.

Walsh and Young wed after a seven month whirlwind courtship, but now Kate is less inclined to jump into things so quickly. “I’ve learned to seek other people’s counsel more,” she tells the magazine.

She’s Still Hoping For A Meaningful Long Term Relationship

Walsh says she hoped for more of a balance between her Hollywood career and her personal life and that she always wanted to have a more ‘normal life.’ But so far that has not happened.

After reading this interview I saw exactly why Kate never fulfilled her dream of being settled down by now with a loving husband and children.

Just like so many other divorced women I have coached, she is using her experience from her past marriage and divorce as a guideline for finding love again.

Learned Her Lesson: Divorce Has Taken A Toll

She described her divorce as “the worst thing ever” and that she learned her lesson about taking things slow in her dating life. And this is exactly where her problem lies.

She has decided that the reason her marriage ended in divorce was because she jumped too soon into a committed relationship. So now to make sure she does not make that mistake again she has gone to the opposite end of the spectrum including getting other peoples advice about her relationships.

Fear Of Second Divorce Stops Her

She is so afraid of making another mistake that she is basically stopping herself from finding love again.

It Takes Two To Tango

It is not wise to use your failed marriage as your guideline for future relationships. Yes, you could explore what the issues were between you and your ex and see the things you were blindsided to before your marriage. However, it takes 2 to Tango and there is never just one thing that causes a breakup. Plus who you were then and who you are now is not the same.

 Of course it is important to be crystal clear about the kind of man that would best suit your needs and to get clear on you ‘deal breakers.’ But that is an inside job. That happens by you going through a process that reveals you innermost authentic requirements for you to have a successful relationship.

Nevertheless it has nothing to do with your past failed relationship because you were not clear on these issues at that time. If you were you would sill be in the relationship or would have not married in the first place.

Never Again

For most women, going through a divorce is confusing and really takes a toll on their self esteem. It leaves them feeling lost and scared about their future. From this unsetting place they tell themselves ‘never again.’

Never again will I be with a man who lies about his gambling, his cheating, his substance abuse and on and on. You can fill in the blanks for whatever your ‘never again is.’

Find Mr. Wrong Instead Of Mr. Right

When your past experience becomes the driving force for qualifying a new potential partner you will increase your chance of finding Mr. Wrong and not noticing Mr. Right.

If your husband cheated on you then you will always be looking for clues that the new man is you life may be a cheater. And your suspicion and distrust about any new man you meet will remove the possibility of ever knowing if this is Mr. Right for you.

The new man in your life will tire of your antics and end the relationship.

And one day some years later you will wake up and say:

Kate Says, “I Thought By Now I Be Married and Have a Family…”

I would have thought by now I would be in a new relationship. Don’t stay hoping and looking for love after divorce while life passes you by, start taking action now to meet your ideal mate.

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Hugs,

Suzy Weiss