Divorce: Is it Really Worth It?

Getting a divorce is far too easy in this day and age. The laws no longer require a person to even give a reason for it. Marriage is no longer considered a life long venture but an idea that can easily be ended if it doesn’t work out. There is far more to consider than the ease of getting a divorce though. Here are some questions to ask yourself before you head to court:

Did I Try Everything?

Divorce is often the easiest way out of what you may consider to be a bad marriage. The only problems that can’t be worked out are those that both parties aren’t willing to fix. You must ensure that you have tried every avenue before heading to divorce court. If you don’t, you will be left with many regrets in the years to come. Counseling is one step that you can take towards mending your marriage. You have nothing to lose by trying your hardest. Both parties must be willing to fix it though. It can’t be one sided.

Do I Still Love Him/her?

You loved this person at one time so much that you were willing to commit the rest of your life to him/her. The chances that you still love him/her are pretty deep. This kind of love doesn’t come along everyday. If you love someone that much, why go through a divorce? Love changes over time. The butterfly feeling may not always remain with you. It is replaced by a deeper and longer lasting love. Accepting that it isn’t all about butterflies is the first step in accepting that the marriage is on a much higher level. You may not think that is the case, but it truly is. It’s all about respecting each other rather than the superficial feelings you get in the beginning. Sometimes, it’s all in how you look at it.

Is It Worth All That It Costs?

Divorce can get really expensive. Lawyers take a huge chunk of your money. Then there is child support if you have children. Sometimes alimony plays a role. What about splitting up the property? You can lose half of what you own. Sometimes even more. There are other costs associated with it as well. You hurt people that you have claimed to love. You lose what you have built up with your partner. Many people have even been known to lose friends in the process.

Why Do I Really Want a Divorce?

Figuring out the reason that you want a divorce is an important step. Did you just get tired of being with the same person all of the time? If so, that isn’t a good reason to get divorced. Discovering each other again can save you from this disastrous end. If it goes much deeper than that, such as suffering from abuse, you have a good reason to want to sever your ties with your partner. There are very few really good reasons to end a marriage. You made the commitment and should stick with it.

Will I Miss Him/her?

Getting a divorce means that you won’t be seeing a whole lot of your partner again. You have to consider how this will impact your life. Will you miss anything about your husband/wife? Maybe the way she cooks or the way he fixes things around the house. If there is anything that you will miss about this person, maybe it is worth working out the problems.

When you said your vows, it should have been with the intent of living the rest of your lives as one unit. It is a serious matter and should be taken as such. Giving in to the ease with which you can get divorced is more heart wrenching than you think it will be. The cost of losing your family unit is probably not worth it. Give your marriage a chance to survive. Divorce is final. Ask yourself the above questions first. Maybe considering a divorce is a little hasty.