Finding Yourself After Divorce
Divorce can be a soul stripping experience, but the good news is that you can make it through and begin finding yourself after divorce. Many divorcees go through a period of mourning and/or depression during and after their divorce, but after you mourn the loss of your marriage and the future dreams that you had with this other person, it is time for you to get back to life and figure out who YOU are. Here are five tips to get you started in finding yourself after divorce.
1. Mourn The Loss
While no one gets married thinking that they will get divorced, it does happen. A divorce is a loss and you are sure to have some feelings of grief or loss over it. Don’t deny those feelings. Take the time to mourn the loss of your marriage and the relationship that you had with your ex.
2. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help
While you may want to be alone, now is not the time. You need a support team to help you through this. A divorce can be one of the most life-changing things to happen and the most stressful. Friends and family can be a great resource, as can a counselor. You want to find people who will listen to you and give you emotional support and inspiration.
3. Take Care Of Yourself
Now is the time to take care of you. Even if you have children, you need to take time to rest, eat right, and take some alone time to process all that you are going through. This will help to sustain you through the divorce and make it through the other side to a fulfilling life.
4. Realize That It Was Not Just You
While you may put the blame for the divorce on something that you did, you need to remember this one thing. A marriage takes two, just as a divorce takes two. All of the blame cannot be put on one person and you need to relieve yourself of the guilt and move forward.
5. What Do You Enjoy Doing?
You may not even know how to answer that question. One good way to find the answer if you are having issues is to think about your past. What did you enjoy doing before you were married? This can give you a starting point to finding something to do that you will really love.Finding yourself after divorce is a process and it will not happen overnight. By taking time for yourself, asking for help, and putting your divorce in the past, you will be able to make it through and find a stronger and healthier you in the process.