A Dream Shattered: Single, Divorced And Dating Again After 40
Like you, I’m no stranger to divorce.
My Grandmother Annie once said to me, “When you meet your one and only you will know true happiness.”
“But Grandma Annie, “How shall I know when I have met my one and only, I asked.” She said, “You will know.”
The harder part is finding the right man to marry.
In that moment, I did not understand the absolute truth of her words when it came to finding the right man to grow old with.
After my painful divorce and the journey that took me to finding the man of my dreams, I understand the wisdom in my Grandmother’s words.
Divorce Was Not Part Of My Vocabulary
I didn’t see it coming, it blindsided me and in the blink of an eye I went from being married to the man I thought was “the one”, to entering the harsh world of living and dating as a divorced woman.
Throughout my life and my career I continue to notice how the really big things that happen to us in life are never expected.
But these ‘Big Things’ can teach us a lot if we are open to learning from them.
I Was Caught By Surprise And Felt Shocked To Be A Divorced Woman Over 40.
Most of my life up until the point of my divorce, seemed pretty predictable.
Get married and have kids. Get good at multitasking between career, being a mom and a good wife to my husband.
That was what I was doing.
So what went wrong?
How did I end up as a divorced woman past forty years of age?
I was devastated to be unexpectedly single again, my self esteem was at a low, I was embarrassed and I was really scared about my future as a single woman without a man that I could trust in my life.
Loved To Network & Felt Born To Be A Matchmaker
Ironically, in my career, I was a matchmaker working as a corporate recruiter.
Matching people to jobs was a great career for me. I had always naturally matched people to things and to other people.
I could match people to houses, to great relationships and marriage and of course to new jobs.
When I moved with my ex husband to a new city, I would match newcomers like myself with other newcomers who shared children the same age.
Also I connected strangers to ‘new’ people that shared the same interest or hobby.
So Just Like You, I’m No Stranger To Divorce
Then came my rude awakening, after my divorce, I could not match myself to the good guys in my new world as a newly divorced single woman. In fact, all I seemed to be able to match myself with were jerks.
I tried most of the online dating sites, bought books and attended lectures and seminars given by the industry experts, even hired a dating coach.
I tried speed dating, went to bars and clubs with other divorced friends.
I felt I left no stone unturned in my effort to discover how to meet eligible men.
Felt Alone And Lonely
Finally, it was my frustration and deep desire to find the love of my life that drove me to take a radically different approach to dating and discovering how to meet and date eligible marriage minded men.
And today, I know my Grandma Annie was right.
Dating Coach For Women Over 40
Dating Again After Divorce For Women Over 40
When you meet the love of your life you will just know it and you will have true happiness.
After I discovered the true secret of finding and getting married to my new husband, my divorced friends begged me to tell them my secrets.
I did, and I shared what I had learned and helped my friends and their friends through the entire process of going from divorce to finding that special relationship.
I Went to a Lot of Weddings That Year
My friends were so ecstatic about their success that they and their friends convinced me to change my career and become a dating coach for women over 40.
I developed my website and video mentoring program for divorced women because I wanted to share and reveal the knowledge and power that I had discovered on my own journey with as many divorced women as I could.
Every one of us has gone or will go through some really hard times after divorce. And most of us will not feel confident about how to get through this awful time in our life.
Every woman I have seen go through a divorce have a similar set of emotions, they are stressed, feel alone and unsure where to start and what information to trust.
When I searched for experts dedicated to helping women become more successful dating, it was hard to find quality dating advice that worked in the real world.
That is why I made it my mission to ensure every divorced woman had a place to go during this time of change.
A place that would help them make a successful transition from a failed marriage and divorce to meeting the love of their life.
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