Why He Disappeared: When Men Stop Calling – Reason (4 of 5)

This may have happen to you too…

He disappeared and stopped calling.

I received an email recently from a woman who wrote because she was so frustrated and confused about her lack of success with relationships.

You know that feeling.

You feel you know something is not right but you can’t put your finger on it.

You’re friends don’t even understand why you’re still single.

No matter how much you think about dating and relationships and no matter how hard you try, you can’t get a handle on it.

It’s like you’re stuck being single and there seems to be no way out of this dilemma

I think you may relate to this email I received from J. D.

Hi Suzy,

My story is that I am 52 years old and I got divorced almost 14 years ago. I waited for 2 years before dating because I wanted to take the time to adjust to my single life.

Well I’ve been dating for over 12 years and have met more men than I care to remember. And now after all this time I’m still single. I never imagined that I would be this age and not re-married.

I’m always told that I’m attractive I’m social and upbeat and people seem to like to be around me. I have an excellent job and make good money, own my home, drive a nice car, love to travel and have many interests. I’m an independent woman and manage all aspects of my life quite well. So it’s not like I need a man to take care of me.
It seems men in my age range are more interested in younger woman. But I’m not using that as an excuse. I’m so frustrated because I know I must be doing something wrong that is causing men to stop calling. And I’m confused because I can’t figure out what my problem is.

Suzy can you help me?

Thanks,
J.D.

Before I tell you what we discovered through a series of coaching sessions with J.D. (she did not want to use her real name, so J. D. stands for Jane Doe) I want to share some important insights with you.

If you are feeling frustrated and confused like J. D. it’s not your fault. But it is your problem.

You meet a man that you find attractive and interesting and he asks you out for a date.

You think it’s going well but he must not have felt that way because he disappears and stops calling.

And that leaves you clueless wondering what happened.

Maybe you’re two months into dating a nice guy and you begin to think maybe this could go somewhere and then he disappears.

Why He Disappeared?

Now you’re obsessing about what went wrong when men stop calling.

You talk with your girlfriends trying to analyze what happened.
One girlfriend suggests maybe he was intimidated by you and that’s why men withdraw from you.

Another friend says maybe he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.

And yet another friend tells you maybe he just wasn’t that into you.

All this leaves you more frustrated and confused with no real answer.

You’re friends and family tell you that they don’t get it.

You’re such a great catch, they can’t understand why you are still single,(and either can you).

You’re attractive, smart and a strong independent woman.

But all you feel is discouraged and at times even hopeless about the whole idea of ever meeting your ideal mate.